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Don’t be Perfect

You are doing well. You are doing a lot. Only you can do things like they should be. Aren’t you a perfectionist? Lets settle two kinds of perfectionists:

Professionals Perfectionists

Perfectionists in their professional life make themselves a possibility to achieve more. Here all depends on your work. If you are a project manager, a leader and concentrate your perfectionism on achieving the global goals, perfectionism will surely lead you to success. This quality helps you to see a global picture and achieve it in the best ways. Many successful people are perfectionists. If you are in this category, go on, keep improving in your work!

If you are a part of some structure, you are working for a bigger project, but not leading it, perfectionism might cause you more stress then success. More and better you will perform, more work you will do instead of others. You will rise expectations on your performance and will have to work harder than others for the same wage. Try to find a balance – do your job well but not instead of others.

Perfectionism in the private life – to get rid off

Perfectionism in your everyday life can only guide to a low self esteem and depression. Actually you tend to look perfect, to keep your home perfect because you want to look perfect in the eyes of others. And when you’re not able to be at the top, you feel bad. You are able even to avoid seeing friends or to invite people at home. This is the type of perfectionism that you should avoid. If you have real friends, they will understand that you are busy and won’t even pay attention to your imperfections.

And the most important – only the perfectionists will judge others for their imperfections. That means that you set yourself high limits and you are not happy with yourself if you can’t reach them. But people who are not like you, won’t judge you like you would.

What to do to stop being perfectionist?

Your physical appearance – get ready for the day in the morning. The first thing before any other – you get yourself ready for all day. You don’t need to re-do your make-up several times. Try to be natural, buy yourself only clothes that you like very much. Get rid of the clothes that doesn’t fit you or you don’t feel free and comfortable in. This will help you to be on the Top always.

Your home – don’t let it be too messy. Keep it in order all the time so that you don’t have to invest a lots of work to clean up each time. Maybe only you can clean it as perfect as you like, but let some work to the others of your family too. A little bit for children, a little bit for your partner and it’s not tragic that it won’t be perfect. At least it will be done and you will have more time to enjoy your life.

Make priorities

There are many genius people who are succeeding in their work and financial life being perfectionists in this, but the house stays messy all the week awaiting for a payed cleaner on the Sunday. They don’t waste the time to clean up home, because they are better paid in their professional work. And to be successful in the work, they need to be happy together with their beloved ones, not wasting the time in making perfect things that doesn’t actually matter.

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Busy woman – Love your life

Would you die happy today?! You don’t know when your life journey ends.

You are a woman, a busy woman as the most of us. You have been at work all day, you have done the laundry, homework with kids, you have prepared the dinner and payed the last bills. Today you didn’t have time to clean your home and to rest. But it’s ok, weekend is coming, you’ll clean up after you’ll be done your second work the Saturday morning and after you’ll be taking kids to extracurricular activities. Maybe even you’ll go to see your friends the evening, just you’ll have to do some quick shopping before to have some to bring with you. And that’s not all…

You are happy when all is done and maybe Sunday you could sit down with your children on the coach. But maybe not this week.., because you have the new project and you have to review your homework before Monday?

Why all this? Is this the fault of your man who only works? Is this the society that makes you doing all of this? Are you happy to be at this rush? If you are in this situation, the answer is YES! It makes you happy! Or you think that you don’t have choice? You have the choice!

Do you know Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs in psychology? Physiological needs come first. One of our physical need is the rest. But we are turning the pyramid upside down. We, women will do all the other things before our comfort.

If you have ever taken the airplane you know the plane instructions in a case of crush; put on the life vest before putting it to children. That means that if you will put the vest to the children first, they may not survive too, because you will not survive. Probably. You’ll not be there to help them anymore.

You know actually why you are doing all this, hein? More you do, bigger will be the satisfaction when all your aims will be done. The Sunday evening you will sit down on the coach really satisfied. To restart your race the Monday… Is it worth of it? Of course not. So what to do?

Make your aims smaller and make a Sunday evening each day. If you won’t put your life vest at time, you’ll be lost. Maybe the house won’t be so clean and children won’t do so many sports. If you have a partner and you both work, cooking, laundry, bills and children are not only your responsibility. Even if he’s not so good as you at those things, it’s OK. Perfect is when you have time to rest. Turn back Your pyramid and enjoy the simple happiness. If you will not ask so much of yourself, you will ask less from others as well. Perfectionist time is done… for a cause.

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Body scan – Meditation massage

Ladies, stress shows on your face. Happiness is the true beauty weapon. /Susan Sarandon/

Daily stress accumulates in our muscles and you keep carrying it on your shoulders. You feel a physical and emotional pressure on your body. I suggest you to get rid of this load in two steps:

Let’s start with the Body scan. Just close your eyes and imagine…

First make a tour in your mind and think of the major things that cause you stress. It is necessary to be aware of what you are getting rid of.

Second – feel whole of your body and determine the places where your muscles are tight. Imagine how your energy flows all over your body and visualize the tight muscle areas. These parts have a different color. You will scan all the body but you’ll make a special attention to these places. Here you will repeat the release several times.

Third – start the Body scan with a Releasing wave. You will guide the wave all over your body. Imagine it as a wave of energy that passes under your muscles from toes up to your body. It passes each muscle by releasing it. The wave goes smooth where the muscles are not tight. And it gives more force and goes slower to release the tight muscles.

Start with the right toe, make more attention to the feet, move slowly up on your right leg. Give more attention where needed, repeat the wave as many times as you need to feel relax. Continue with the left toe up to leg. Probably you will need more energy to your back, go through the lowest back muscles from the right side first, repeat the wave even three or four times, than do it on the left side and move up. Do the same in the middle of your back, in the upper side, on your neck. Go through your right arm, than left arm. End the body scan with your head, do well the neck side muscles and your face.

Enhance Your Happiness by Love meditation

Now your stress is released from the muscles. If you feel that you need to continue with the second step – Love energy meditation – you can follow it in my previous article Take the Pure Love Energy of the Universe. /Imagine yourself in the universe, floating above our planet, you are in the dark sky filled with colorful, shiny Love energy flows. These Love flows are filling You, as a part of the universe. You feel the warm, slow loving energy coming into your body…/

If the Body scan was enough for now, you can make the Love meditation the next time. Once you have done, you must feel satisfied, You have left more space in your body for the positive energy and happiness.

If you have tried out this meditation and if you would like to discuss it, Share your experience with us in comments or by sending me a private e-mail.

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