How to Have Only Amazing Weekends

Thank god it’s Friday! Make of your weekend a real zen and joyful event. We women don’t stop working ever. As our days off are here, we need to do lot and a lot of things at home. Her’s how to stop this and have a really nice days off!

Plan your time

Many are using now time planning cell phone applications who basically help to remember your tasks and set the time when to do them. It is not a bad idea. But you can use an agenda or just a sheet of paper to do it.

Start by planning your week. Don’t forget to include the home tasks between others. This is a work too so don’t let yourself do all this on your free time! Even if you are tired after work, do at least one small homework every day. It might be the morning before you go to work or any other time. Think if you could even stand up some 20 minutes earlier the morning to do it.

Search for helpers

And right away I will not agree – this is not help that you need. Actually home-tasks should be done by all family members at least if you are not a housewife. This is not a help, it’s a common family life. You work, your partner works, children go to school – so each one some part of home work.

Forget perfectionism

You want that things are well done, so that’s why you don’t want any helpers. The floor won’t be so clean and dinner won’t be as you planned. Let it go! Let it be as it is, they can do things too and that might bring pleasure to everyone. You don’t need to control everything – be a team member, not a leader. Get fun all together – that’s the most important.

Plan your weekend

If you have two days off, you can plan that time too – a little bit for your family and a little bit for you. Plan an afternoon with your kids – go out for a walk or play games together. But don’t forget to take the other afternoon for you! Go out for coffee with your friend or with your partner. A great afternoon for yourself can be an afternoon home alone. Do your beauty rituals in the bathroom, make yourself a huge cup of aromatic thee with honey and watch a film that you wouldn’t watch with your family.

Because we, women need to take up energy. You are the energy of the family and if You will feel good, relaxed and positive, your family will feel like that too.

Have a nice weekend !!

Don’t be Perfect

You are doing well. You are doing a lot. Only you can do things like they should be. Aren’t you a perfectionist? Lets settle two kinds of perfectionists:

Professionals Perfectionists

Perfectionists in their professional life make themselves a possibility to achieve more. Here all depends on your work. If you are a project manager, a leader and concentrate your perfectionism on achieving the global goals, perfectionism will surely lead you to success. This quality helps you to see a global picture and achieve it in the best ways. Many successful people are perfectionists. If you are in this category, go on, keep improving in your work!

If you are a part of some structure, you are working for a bigger project, but not leading it, perfectionism might cause you more stress then success. More and better you will perform, more work you will do instead of others. You will rise expectations on your performance and will have to work harder than others for the same wage. Try to find a balance – do your job well but not instead of others.

Perfectionism in the private life – to get rid off

Perfectionism in your everyday life can only guide to a low self esteem and depression. Actually you tend to look perfect, to keep your home perfect because you want to look perfect in the eyes of others. And when you’re not able to be at the top, you feel bad. You are able even to avoid seeing friends or to invite people at home. This is the type of perfectionism that you should avoid. If you have real friends, they will understand that you are busy and won’t even pay attention to your imperfections.

And the most important – only the perfectionists will judge others for their imperfections. That means that you set yourself high limits and you are not happy with yourself if you can’t reach them. But people who are not like you, won’t judge you like you would.

What to do to stop being perfectionist?

Your physical appearance – get ready for the day in the morning. The first thing before any other – you get yourself ready for all day. You don’t need to re-do your make-up several times. Try to be natural, buy yourself only clothes that you like very much. Get rid of the clothes that doesn’t fit you or you don’t feel free and comfortable in. This will help you to be on the Top always.

Your home – don’t let it be too messy. Keep it in order all the time so that you don’t have to invest a lots of work to clean up each time. Maybe only you can clean it as perfect as you like, but let some work to the others of your family too. A little bit for children, a little bit for your partner and it’s not tragic that it won’t be perfect. At least it will be done and you will have more time to enjoy your life.

Make priorities

There are many genius people who are succeeding in their work and financial life being perfectionists in this, but the house stays messy all the week awaiting for a payed cleaner on the Sunday. They don’t waste the time to clean up home, because they are better paid in their professional work. And to be successful in the work, they need to be happy together with their beloved ones, not wasting the time in making perfect things that doesn’t actually matter.

Please share with us – Are You a Perfectionist? How do You feel it? Because Your opinion matters! Thank You so much!

A Sad Dreamers Story

The beginning of my dream was an idea

Just a taught that determined my further behavior. It didn’t let me go, so it was worth of a little case study. That gave me a motivation, joy of beginning something new. I started to talk about it to others, ask questions to those who have experienced it.

I saw myself in the dream

I determined it as my aim and started to find solutions and people to reach it. I was so excited and wanted to move on wise and quickly. I saw myself already in the situation of reaching my dream. I imagined it to understand better my specific needs.

Listening to advice

I knew that people who are experienced might give an advice and I was open to all additional information. I still understand that the decision maker is only me and I don’t have to do like others did.

A mistake

But… as I was a novice, it was so hard to sort properly the advice. Advice came from my friends. I didn’t know any other solution, so I did exactly what they said…

The reality hits hard

Here I saw myself falling. In my mind I still screamed ”No, no.., no…” I felt defeat. I didn’t expect that, but it hurt so much. My soul cried and shout and I knew that was my fault. I felt a shame and dissapointment, all my world had just wracked.

Only that miserable moment of defeat I understood why. While I was building my dream I taught that all went well. Actually I was too excited and I saw what I wanted to see through the pink glasses. I understood that I made mistakes while following friends advice… but why? My friends have their lives, their situation and their solution didn’t fit to me. Even if they wanted to help me.

I was so thirsty that I drank a poison.

Luckily for me, I have other things in my life to go on. The defeat is so recent that my wounds still hurt. But I won’t judge myself too hard. Shit happens.

Busy woman – Love your life

Would you die happy today?! You don’t know when your life journey ends.

You are a woman, a busy woman as the most of us. You have been at work all day, you have done the laundry, homework with kids, you have prepared the dinner and payed the last bills. Today you didn’t have time to clean your home and to rest. But it’s ok, weekend is coming, you’ll clean up after you’ll be done your second work the Saturday morning and after you’ll be taking kids to extracurricular activities. Maybe even you’ll go to see your friends the evening, just you’ll have to do some quick shopping before to have some to bring with you. And that’s not all…

You are happy when all is done and maybe Sunday you could sit down with your children on the coach. But maybe not this week.., because you have the new project and you have to review your homework before Monday?

Why all this? Is this the fault of your man who only works? Is this the society that makes you doing all of this? Are you happy to be at this rush? If you are in this situation, the answer is YES! It makes you happy! Or you think that you don’t have choice? You have the choice!

Do you know Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs in psychology? Physiological needs come first. One of our physical need is the rest. But we are turning the pyramid upside down. We, women will do all the other things before our comfort.

If you have ever taken the airplane you know the plane instructions in a case of crush; put on the life vest before putting it to children. That means that if you will put the vest to the children first, they may not survive too, because you will not survive. Probably. You’ll not be there to help them anymore.

You know actually why you are doing all this, hein? More you do, bigger will be the satisfaction when all your aims will be done. The Sunday evening you will sit down on the coach really satisfied. To restart your race the Monday… Is it worth of it? Of course not. So what to do?

Make your aims smaller and make a Sunday evening each day. If you won’t put your life vest at time, you’ll be lost. Maybe the house won’t be so clean and children won’t do so many sports. If you have a partner and you both work, cooking, laundry, bills and children are not only your responsibility. Even if he’s not so good as you at those things, it’s OK. Perfect is when you have time to rest. Turn back Your pyramid and enjoy the simple happiness. If you will not ask so much of yourself, you will ask less from others as well. Perfectionist time is done… for a cause.

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Don’t forget to be grateful

Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. Then the worms eat you. Be grateful it happens in that order – David Gerrold /american author/.

Being grateful is a very important part of your self growth and positive thinking. Gratefulness means that You think of all good things that you have in your life, it reminds that actually you are not so poor, not so unhappy and that you have a good reason to keep achieving.

I propose you a Visualization meditation method that is dedicated to stay grateful.

Just close your eyes and imagine….

First make a tour in your mind – think of all these things in your life that you wouldn’t give up for anything in the world – think of your children, your family, your health… you have two hands, two legs, your eyes see and you have enough money to live – that’s awesome!!

Second, feel the energy in your body – imagine the energy flows. It flows slowly in your arms, one by one. Then it flows to your neck and head. You feel the shiny colors in each part where the energy comes. It fills all your body, your legs till the fingertips. You are all filled with it, energy keeps flowing slowly in your body.

You will share your energy to others – make sure that you feel that you have enough energy. If you think that you need more energy, I suggest you continue by filling your body with The Pure Love Energy of the Universe – that is described in my earlier article.

Third – now imagine each person for who you are grateful – one by one and give him/her a hug – a thanking hug . While the hug the energies of your bodies are exchanging. the person gives you his energy that makes you grateful and happy. You give your energy of love and gratefulness. Repeat this hugging process with each person you intended to.

Fourth – imagine each circumstance, thing or part of your body for which you are grateful. See it with your eyes closed, enjoy the moment, feel exchange of your energies.

Fifth – You have expressed your gratefulness to everyone and everywhere you wanted. Now return to the second step and feel again the energy flows in your body. Now they have changed, became stronger. Your energy is mixed with all the positive energies that you have exchanged. You feel stronger and you are ready to continue your projects and be successful.

If you have tried out this meditation and if you would like to discuss it, Share your experience with us in comments or by sending me a private e-mail.

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Create a home that inspires you

Create a home that motivates you and you will get inspiration every day! See interior design as a part of your active life. It is Your house, apartment or room – and You are able to create what’s in it. The best moments in my life are moving into a new house or apartment and choosing the furniture, floor and all accessories around. Even if you have a budget to respect, this is the moment when you create your space to live in. On that will depend how you will feel every day. If you will choose beautiful things to look at, you will feel beautiful too.

I will tell you by a secret that me and my husband we love to change furniture placement or even switch rooms with our children, to make a difference. Even if we are not changing the house, and not buying new furniture, we are just changing the looks.

Always aim higher

Always aim higher when choosing your home looks. I start by looking luxury interiors to give myself an idea what is the best. Even if I will never afford them, I see trends and put ideas together with my own requirements. You see how different materials, colors and lights change the whole ambiance. When you will choose your furniture, you will see better how to combine different looks to get the best result.

Bring your personal values into your interior

You should see interior as a part of your active life. It must be functional, practical and remind you the most important values of your life. A home is not a museum. Bring in it your heart. I mean to think about – your family, love, your career. Many years ago I have found the Chinese method of harmonizing your surroundings – Feng Shui. I am not the fanatic of it to calculate each corner according it’s rules. But as I was interested in it, I learn their theory and took the best for me. If you are interested in more content of my interpretation of Feng Shui, I invite you to follow my blog, and read the article Best picks of Feng Shui for You. In brief the theory is based on creating well aired, light, no messy, tidy spaces. And it proposes you to divide your living space in areas which represents certain aspects of your life (family, love career etc.) To be successful in each of them, you have to take a regular care of these areas.

The most important that I learned from Feng Shui – it invites you to keep in mind your general topics all the time. In our everyday life we work, we do things quickly and often forget to take care of the most important. Let’s say that by introducing your important aspects in your interior you keep them visual behind your eyes all the time. It is a little bit like self-improvement authors advice sometimes to wright down some important quotes or even your aims on a paper and put it like a huge poster in your room. Every morning when you wake up, you read the words and keep concentrated on them.

Me with my family have a project to create us a new space of living. I’m so excited about it. So I invite you to see some of my best kitchen picks:
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You know exactly what you want, but can’t start?

If you know exactly what you want, but can’t start, here’s what I want you to do: Stop searching and reading, get to the job! And you must get it done today, at least… it must begin today.

You are original and you must do it on your own way

First you have to try it out and do some further research after – if needed. Why? Because inspiring by others is a great source of ideas but it sets your limits by ideas of other people. You are risking to loose your own originality. You risk to box yourself into existing and don’t let your genius break the borders. If you look back in history – every inventor, new genius broke the limits, they were first considered as a foolish. No matters what you are up to, remember – You are original and you must do it on your own way. Because you will not sell one more copy of already existing. The market of today is overloaded.

The second is not to be afraid to be a fool. Being a fool for ones means being a genius for others. That’s the old brakes that keep plenty of people away from their dreams – being afraid of what others will say.

Believe in yourself

I remember myself in such situations when I was scared of opinion of others and was ready to stop all action immediately. I had this feeling because I did not believe in myself. Even if I knew that it is not hard to do, I thought ”my God, what will they think, they will look at me as to an idiot”. I did not realize that All situation depends on perception. It depends ”how you sell the thing.”

You have the only ability to guide your life path. There is no other person who can make the good decision in your place – only in a case if you let it be. Don’t do it, take your life in your hands and concentrate on what shall be done, do it without hesitation. You are the writer of your history, instead of thinking of what others think, make sure not to disappoint yourself.

Let’s see an example: imagine, if you would be a real estate agent (with all stereotypes that it incorporates), people will come to you because they can’t find their house in another way. If you will talk to them in a small voice, tell only the facts and numbers, won’t be confident in yourself they will count it unprofessional, will think that you are there only to get your percent, and they will leave you as soon as possible to see another agent. If you will be able to sell them a whole story of a nice area, let them understand that you will guide them in this occasion, help with a professional advice, they will believe in you, they will see that you don’t take your percent for nothing. Even better, if earlier they might have any negative opinion on your profession, now they would be glad to meet you. You see that in these two situations the result of What people think of you – is crucial – to get the deal or not. But all the difference is in your attitude and choice – being self-confident or not. Staying in the right profession or not…

Others will believe too

So remember to get your inspiration on your own way and get started immediately. So many people don’t see outside the box and are not acting because of their fear of other people’s opinion. Your originality and courage can make a difference. Show that you believe in yourself and others will believe too.

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