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Don’t forget to be grateful

Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. Then the worms eat you. Be grateful it happens in that order – David Gerrold /american author/.

Being grateful is a very important part of your self growth and positive thinking. Gratefulness means that You think of all good things that you have in your life, it reminds that actually you are not so poor, not so unhappy and that you have a good reason to keep achieving.

I propose you a Visualization meditation method that is dedicated to stay grateful.

Just close your eyes and imagine….

First make a tour in your mind – think of all these things in your life that you wouldn’t give up for anything in the world – think of your children, your family, your health… you have two hands, two legs, your eyes see and you have enough money to live – that’s awesome!!

Second, feel the energy in your body – imagine the energy flows. It flows slowly in your arms, one by one. Then it flows to your neck and head. You feel the shiny colors in each part where the energy comes. It fills all your body, your legs till the fingertips. You are all filled with it, energy keeps flowing slowly in your body.

You will share your energy to others – make sure that you feel that you have enough energy. If you think that you need more energy, I suggest you continue by filling your body with The Pure Love Energy of the Universe – that is described in my earlier article.

Third – now imagine each person for who you are grateful – one by one and give him/her a hug – a thanking hug . While the hug the energies of your bodies are exchanging. the person gives you his energy that makes you grateful and happy. You give your energy of love and gratefulness. Repeat this hugging process with each person you intended to.

Fourth – imagine each circumstance, thing or part of your body for which you are grateful. See it with your eyes closed, enjoy the moment, feel exchange of your energies.

Fifth – You have expressed your gratefulness to everyone and everywhere you wanted. Now return to the second step and feel again the energy flows in your body. Now they have changed, became stronger. Your energy is mixed with all the positive energies that you have exchanged. You feel stronger and you are ready to continue your projects and be successful.

If you have tried out this meditation and if you would like to discuss it, Share your experience with us in comments or by sending me a private e-mail.

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You know exactly what you want, but can’t start?

If you know exactly what you want, but can’t start, here’s what I want you to do: Stop searching and reading, get to the job! And you must get it done today, at least… it must begin today.

You are original and you must do it on your own way

First you have to try it out and do some further research after – if needed. Why? Because inspiring by others is a great source of ideas but it sets your limits by ideas of other people. You are risking to loose your own originality. You risk to box yourself into existing and don’t let your genius break the borders. If you look back in history – every inventor, new genius broke the limits, they were first considered as a foolish. No matters what you are up to, remember – You are original and you must do it on your own way. Because you will not sell one more copy of already existing. The market of today is overloaded.

The second is not to be afraid to be a fool. Being a fool for ones means being a genius for others. That’s the old brakes that keep plenty of people away from their dreams – being afraid of what others will say.

Believe in yourself

I remember myself in such situations when I was scared of opinion of others and was ready to stop all action immediately. I had this feeling because I did not believe in myself. Even if I knew that it is not hard to do, I thought ”my God, what will they think, they will look at me as to an idiot”. I did not realize that All situation depends on perception. It depends ”how you sell the thing.”

You have the only ability to guide your life path. There is no other person who can make the good decision in your place – only in a case if you let it be. Don’t do it, take your life in your hands and concentrate on what shall be done, do it without hesitation. You are the writer of your history, instead of thinking of what others think, make sure not to disappoint yourself.

Let’s see an example: imagine, if you would be a real estate agent (with all stereotypes that it incorporates), people will come to you because they can’t find their house in another way. If you will talk to them in a small voice, tell only the facts and numbers, won’t be confident in yourself they will count it unprofessional, will think that you are there only to get your percent, and they will leave you as soon as possible to see another agent. If you will be able to sell them a whole story of a nice area, let them understand that you will guide them in this occasion, help with a professional advice, they will believe in you, they will see that you don’t take your percent for nothing. Even better, if earlier they might have any negative opinion on your profession, now they would be glad to meet you. You see that in these two situations the result of What people think of you – is crucial – to get the deal or not. But all the difference is in your attitude and choice – being self-confident or not. Staying in the right profession or not…

Others will believe too

So remember to get your inspiration on your own way and get started immediately. So many people don’t see outside the box and are not acting because of their fear of other people’s opinion. Your originality and courage can make a difference. Show that you believe in yourself and others will believe too.

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The solution how to succeed is in you

We need to succeed in this life, we have to…

We now that our school hasn’t learned us to succeed so we are searching elsewhere… everywhere. After reading the self-help and self-improvement literature, many of us will try it out in different ways, but nothing actually changes. Even worse – more persistent you are, more miserable you can feel after – because they say that it’s so fucking easy to succeed: ’’When you imagine 1000,000 $ their almost yours’’ or ‘’the most important is to start and don’t let go…’’ Many of us are ready to everything to succeed and they believe that those glorious words from self-improvers will work… they can even spend a money to make it work…. but nothing. Why?!

Reading a motivating and helping literature doesn’t mean that you acquire the ability, skills or needed knowledge

You are just reading, entertaining yourself. Even if all advice is really useful, you have to ACT to make it WORK in your life. Reading that joyful literature won’t give you basic knowledge on the market, business or the particular skills that actually will determine if your projects are viable or not. Advises just motivate you to go, but you have to keep your head on the shoulders and figure out the right way to go.

The motivation authors have the role of cheer leaders

For example, you know that you will start a particular online selling business. The most important is to go back to business theories and see what you should find out on your competitors and their strategies. Than you have to find out if there is a raising demand on the market, the rate of prices and much more. All that will take you a lots of time and your research might show different results… maybe it will not be a viable project and you will have to restart your research in another domain.

They keep screaming: ‘’Go, go, you can do it’’, but all decision is yours, you are the player and the result will depend on your performance, not on the volume of the cheer leader’s voice.

Take your time and think

You should find at least some minutes at least once a week to sit down, close your eyes and concentrate on who you are, what you have and where you are going. It is important is to keep connection between what you are doing and what you are willing.

Concentrate exactly on your life plans or projects

First you need to think in whole – what is the aim, what looks like your dream come true. Than you have to think of your tasks in general what you have to do to get to your aim. Imagine clearly the things that you do to make it real. Than imagine what you will do today to move forward. And think if you give the best for it? This part is so fucking important because here you must give the directions to yourself… Motivation must stay with you all the time.

Thomas Edison said: ‘’Opportunity is missed by most of the people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like a work.’’ All this stuff is nothing if it cannot make you act!

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Screw on what they think

Have you been mad on yourself due to seeing all those people have houses, cars, they succeed in their business… and damn it! Why not me?! What does I don’t understand? Each time starting something soon you understand that it won’t WORK anyway, that it’s not good enough… You start one idea, then you prepare everything to start another…and another… each time you started so excited…, but once the preparing accomplished, you are scared and do not see yourself strong enough to propose it to people. What will they think? And what will they say? And the worse –what if they all will see how I fail!? Laozi said: ‘’ Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner’’. Stop worrying what others think, only you know what shell be done in your life – go for it!

There is a story from life

While I was doing a day job, some 10 years ago, I had very nice colleagues – man and woman with whom we had habits to celebrate birthdays together, to go out together and to share all the information in our circle. We kept in touch by seeing all the time, by phone, by messages, all my time was busy now. We all knew each other’s work and free time schedule, who is doing what which hour. So if I said that I cannot come out once with everyone, I had to invent a good reason.

At the beginning I saw it exciting, I was happy, but as it repeated constantly, I started to see that this group of persons are only interested in this being together itself, on clothes they wore for each time – to surprise others and to show out, to criticise others by the back. Even if the moments together were nice, all it seemed to me superficial and useless, I started to be sorry for the time that I spend with them but to stay good at my work I had to keep the relationship. I was even terrorized that my birthday approached and I had to invent a place where to celebrate it to surprise my colleagues (as everyone did), to buy new clothes and to organize a better party that one’s before…We worked well together, but all this out of work stuff was too much for me. Even worse… I started to feel imprisoned by them, under their control. I had my own additional professional plans and ideas to realize, but I felt blocked, I did not want my colleagues to know what will I do, because I knew that it will cause a jealousy and I will be observed very closely to not to skip the moment when I will make a mistake, when I fell… and so they could make a whole story out of it.

My right to freedom

Aristotle said about that ‘’There is only one way to avoid criticism – do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing’’ so I felt that I am nothing, a misery. I knew that I could go out of this prison but only by quitting that nice job and stopping seeing with them. It is not always simple to quit a job, knowing that you need an income anyway. Finally, I found another day job and I quit, so my dear colleagues let me go… little by little. I had regained my out of work time freedom! Finally, my telephone did not ring every hour and I had no obligations to go to their parties and tell ‘’what’s new in my life’’. Even I was wondering where from do I have so much time…?

At that time, I read already the self-improvement literature and knew that these are the wrong people for me and I had to get rid of them in my every day life. I knew as well that if I wanted to move on with my projects I must stop caring of what the other people will think. In my situation I could not just stop caring. These were real people in a real situation who asked me the questions and I could not afford to be rude with them… it is just not me to be bad with people around. So I had to make an action that is quite global to my life, to my profession and to my income – I had to quit the job to get rid of those people. Actually it was not even about my projects in particular, it was about my right to have a freedom.

It is all about scare of the judgement

Any way I felt the winner because I was free. Actually all this situation was about my feeling that my colleagues kept me busy by the things that are not worthy enough in my values system.

You want to do things but you don’t want to show yourself. You are a personality and if you do more things than an average person you will become seen and there is a chance that you will be criticized. It is the price to pay. Not all criticism is objective and meaningful. It might come from jealousy or just a habit to talk about others. These people don’t care about you, you shouldn’t care either. An American author Dr Seuss Geisel said very well: ‘’Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.’’

Your ideas are more important, just get to the job now and ignore negative influences. If you have difficulties on this topic, write me an e-mail or just put it here in comments and we’ll get through it!

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